They say that when you meet the love of your life, time stops. And that’s true.
~Edward Bloom, Big Fish
you are my sunshine, my only sunshine
you make me happy when skies are grey
you’ll never know, dear, how much I love you
please don’t take my sunshine away
(I would just want to share the essay I made during my summer class in Literature21)
Two dolls in rags and tatters,
one missing an arm and a leg,
the other blind in one eye—I grabbed them from her arms,
“No,” I said, “they cannot come.”
Each tight baggage
I had packed
only for the barest need:
no room for sentiment or memory
to clutter with loose ends
my stern resolve. I reasoned,
even a child must learn
she cannot take what must be left behind.
And so the boat turned seaward,
a smart wind blowing dry
the stealthy tears I could not wipe.
Then I saw—rags, tatters and all—
there among the neat trim packs,
the dolls I ruled to leave behind.
Her silence should have warned me
she knew her burdens
as I knew mine:
her clean white years unlived—
and paid my price.
She battened on a truth
she knew I too must own:
when what’s at stake
is loyalty or love,
hers are the true rights.
Her own faiths she must keep, not I.
Life can sometimes leave ugly and painful experiences.“Two dolls in rags and tatters, one missing an arm and a leg, the other blind in one eye…”. The dolls represent a human figure, which represents us as human. It was mentioned that these dolls were ragged, ruined and tattered due to the fact that maybe it has gone through a lot of happenings; maybe they were not handled properly, was left outside to get dirty or stepped on, which explains the doll getting ruined. We may have also experienced that. Our past experiences may be chaotic and full of hurt, and sometimes it results to what we have become now as a person - with a changed personality. But take note that such painful experiences are part of life. We can never be whole if we didn’t experience such happenings because it is in these situations where we learn from it and helps us to grow to become a better person.
Move on. “I grabbed them from her arms, ‘No’, I said, ‘they cannot come.’ “ ”… I had packed only for the barest need: no room for sentiment or memory…..even a child must learn she cannot take what must be left behind.” The mother wanted the dolls to be left behind because she didn’t want to be reminded of the dreadful events that had happened (since the dolls represented to be pieces of the past) to her when she will be moving out to have a new life. In order to move on in life, we must leave behind whatever painful experience we have encountered. We can never fully move forward if we keep on looking back on the things that has hurt us, it is time for us to look ahead of what life has something better in store for us. “And so the boat turned seaward, a smart wind blowing dry the stealthy tears I could not wipe.” We all know that we might seem to be very attached to the past situation, like how the child was attached to the dolls, but sometimes letting go of something that is not worth is good for us no matter how hard or painful it feels to go on and set it free. In this case, we deserve something better in life than to be attached with the unpleasant past, so in the daughter’s case, she deserves to have a new doll.
Memories remain and sometimes there are things that we could not or should not completely forget. “Then I saw—rags, tatters and all—there among the neat trim packs, the dolls I ruled to leave behind.” “She battened on a truth she knew I too must own: when what’s at stake is loyalty or love, hers are the true rights. Her own faiths she must keep, not I.” Memories could not be completely erased but rather we learn to accept them. These reminiscences remain to be life lessons whenever we try to look back at them, but we shouldn’t remain or feel bitter. Despite of the bad experiences we still do need to look at the things that made us happy during those times. The child in the poem may have experienced happy moments when she played with the dolls, disregarding the fact that it is dirty and tattered. During that time when we were “dirty and tattered”, there were also people present to comfort us and has looked beyond our mistakes, people who made us happy and inspired and made us forget of how ruined we have become. These memories remain as scars in our heart and it will always stay there forever.
Life can be sweet or bitter. In fact not at all times do we expect or control on how we want things to happen, and if it did happen the way we want it or not, we cannot do anything about it except to move on and go on with our life. It takes a lot of courage and time to be able to go and move forward, because these things used to be precious to us and it would hurt to leave it all behind. But because moving on is the only thing that is essential, we must also learn to forgive and forget. Forgive the person who did us wrong and forget the wounding memories. It is better to let go of all the misery and hurt rather than to keep all the grudges into ourselves because what we want in life is to be free, and when we are free, we become a better person.
The poem, its literature, is beautiful. Its simplicity can tell of a thousand thoughts and contains a broader sense. Literature is all about life and the many complications in it – beauty, happiness, sadness, etc. A simple literature can change one man’s perspective in life. The poem has made me look at life in a broader sense, even though I know how shallow one can describe a poem, but this has shown many things about how life is – that it is unpredictable, and no matter how unpredictable it gets, we still have to go and look forward because that is what this is all about. We accept change, move on, and smile at the memories. Life is not ours to completely control, change is constant, and the life we have is not as perfect as how we want it to be but we learn to look at it perfectly.